Rethink release process so we can support native node modules

[dbkr]

Blocks: #11125
Blocks: #10369

[turt2live]

Related: #8299

[jryans]

As an interim step to avoid long-lived PRs waiting for this process, we're going to attempt the following:

• Test for the native node module(s) needed with runtime checks
• Do not add the native node module as an app dependency (instead record what should be added in a doc)

[turt2live]

The label "new-build-process" fixes this.

[dbkr]

Split out into the above.