Migrate to GetEventRecorderFor for controller-runtime v0.23.0 and later

[jmclong]

This PR updated controller-runtime to use a newer event API. We should replace the deprecated event API with this new one.

kubernetes-sigs/controller-runtime#3262

Events: Migration to the new events API by clebs in kubernetes-sigs/controller-runtime#3262
Using the new GetEventRecorderFor requires updating your rbac for events to use the events.k8s.io apiGroup rather than the `` (core) apiGroup